Saturday, August 20, 2011

The Rebel Archetype and the Creative Urge

“What're you rebelling against, Johnny?” “Whaddya got?” – The Wild One
 The Rebel Archetype is an important figure in Jungian Psychology. When someone is engaged by this powerful, subconscious idea in a positive manner, it represents the creative urge; invention; innovation; and the ability to bring about positive social changes. In its shadow form, it can turn someone with its destructive force, causing the people who identify with it to rebel due to peer pressure, follow a fashion trend (trapping the follower in a different system that requires conformity) and/or engage in meaningless criminal acts.
Johnny Cash, Sid Vicious, Jesus, Martin Luther King Jr., Steve Jobs, Captain Jack Sparrow, and Tyler Durden are all examples of the Rebel Archetype. Whether fictional or real these figures have inspired people to reject society’s standards and to define their lives in ways that they find personally valid. In many cases they serve as role models for those who feel that they don’t fit in with their peers or their society. When people are able to associate with the positive aspects of these characters they become a source of power, influence, and self-acceptance.
Acting rebellious at times, as long as one is physically and mentally safe, is an important part of childhood development. The rebellious teenager is acting out in an attempt to separate themselves from their parents, become their own person, and develop a fully functioning psyche. Rebellion in this sense expands horizons; opens minds and makes one aware of where their boundaries should be. Life would be boring if we all followed the rules and refused to take risks. Learning from the inevitable mistakes that follow adolescent rebellion are things that can’t be taught; they may only be learned by real life experiences. Identifying with the Rebel Archetype may also impart to the seeker the same strength and begins a similar process of understanding and knowing oneself.
Positive rebellion, questioning the way things are done and forging one’s own path in life has a creative and positive result. Some people may even find inspiration in rebellion that comes from a negative place and which is ultimately destructive. A friend, who had herself  grown up in a strict, religious home and never rebelled, once confided in me that she was oddly proud when her 15-year-old daughter began to act out in a rebellious fashion. The girl ran away from home numerous times, became promiscuous, eventually became pregnant, flaunted all authority, and often behaved like a common criminal. There was no question that the girl’s behavior caused the mother, the daughter, and her family great pain and distress. In this case the daughter came to represent the Rebel Archetype, despite the very real pain involved, and the mother recognized her own unrealized creative urges in her daughter’s struggles.

The popularity of the character Jack Sparrow from the Pirates of the Caribbean movies is a prime example of the fictional Rebel Archetype and the place it occupies in the collective consciousness. When confronted by such a person in reality, society would be justified in labeling them as a sociopath, and incarcerating them. Yet the character is viewed as a hero, and has been the driving force behind a multi-billion dollar movie and marketing franchise.
For years rock stars have engaged in behaviors that would land someone less famous in prison, a mental hospital, or the grave. Unfortunately, some of them have ended up in just such places, but, perhaps because of their status, they seem to escape much of the stigma usually associated with these behaviors. More conservative members of society often idolize these figures in spite of their own beliefs and contrary values. Think about the ostensibly conservative executive who wears a Jimi Hendrix tie to work every Friday or listens to Slayer everyday on their commute home. This person sees the value inherent in the Rebel Archetype, and honors it with these simple statements.
In their most benign form it’s normal and healthy to idolize even the more negative aspects of the figures that represent the Rebel Archetype. They allow us to safely engage and exercise our creative and destructive urges in a manner that is socially acceptable. They represent the fire that drives innovation, creativity, and a refusal to accept the status quo. Without this urge, our lives would be stagnant and dull. The world would be a poorer place lacking many great works of art, literature, and music. We would be deprived of inventions like the light bulb, the automobile, and the personal computer. Oppressed and marginalized people would be without a voice, and the United States would not exist without the energy provided by the Rebel Archetype and its more practical realizations.

How To Wear A Hat

How To Wear A Hat

“Son, all you need to wear a hat is attitude. And you got that.” Neil Gaiman – The Anansi Boys

Wearing a hat seems like a really simple thing. You put one on your head and go, right? Wrong. Well, maybe not wrong, it’s just not correct all of the time. That may be correct for the average baseball cap, but that's not the kinds of hats I’m talking about. I mean hats that are more stylish and classic, like a fedora or a derby.

I’ve taken a lot of guff from a good friend of mine because I like to wear fedoras sometimes.I have several and I really think they look good on me. Sure, they look a little kitschy and it’s something of an affectation. But, I realized that I’m forty-plus years old, I’m old enough to dress anyway I want, and not feel embarrassed about it. 

It was a struggle for a while. I felt really self-conscious about it at first. I think I saw some people snickering at me too. But after a while I started getting bolder about wearing them, and I think the change in attitude was noticeable. I started getting complimented on the fedoras. I started cocking them at a “jaunty” angle, and wore them with pride. Sure, people still probably think I’m an idiot sometimes. But so what? Fortune favors the bold, and all that shit. Ya know?

So, my advice to the person who wishes to wear a hat, like a fedora or another felt or straw hat, without feeling like a moron is to have the right attitude. If people laugh at you, use a trick I learned in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Tell yourself that they're probably just envious of your keen fashion sense. Even if it's not true say it silently to yourself over and over. Pretty soon you'll believe it. Second if you're wearing a stylish hat, wear it at an angle and pretend you're in a noir thriller. Or pretend that you're channeling the spirit of Humphrey Bogart or Frank Sinatra. You get what I'm saying, right? You're probably wearing a hat to get noticed, so be proud of it. Own that fucking hat!


Finally, have fun. Be proud of who you are and know that you're expressing yourself. Laugh at the small-minded people who think they have the right to judge you for being a little unusual. Laugh at yourself because you're probably kinda silly anyway. Just have fun with it! 

Monday, August 15, 2011

How to Dance - For Average Guys

As a person who often feels socially awkward, and someone who is sometimes inexplicably moody (I have been diagnosed with both social anxiety disorder, and a mood disorder) I have often felt left out, conspicous, and envious of people who not only know how to dance, but also seem to truly enjoy it. Because I was unwilling to confront my fear of looking awkward and being rejected socially in the past I have chosen not to dance at social events like weddings or parties. I even adopted the attitude that I didn't like to dance, and looked down on people who did enjoy dancing. Truthfully though, I would love to just get out on a dance floor, and just let loose, have fun, and enjoy being with someone I love. I have, at least twice, been able to do just that. But I'd love to do it more.

I found succeedsocially.com a while back and I truly love the site! Sometimes it seems that the site's creator has lived inside my head, experienced the same negative cognitions that I have, and tried to protect themselves from feeling socially awkward in the same fashion that I have. Knowing that someone else has been in my shoes makes me feel less like an antisocial freak! It helped me to realize that I'm just reverting back to coping strategies that literally helped me survive what my childhood experiences taught me. That the world was a cold, harsh, and dangerous place, and if you let your guard down for just one minute you'd get killed. Now when I'm tempted to use those same strategies I just need to remind myself that I'm no longer a child, the world isn't as dangerous as it once was, I have choices, and I can learn and usually already am aware of other coping strategies that are more appropriate.

It also reminds me that I don't have to be perfect in life, just mindful, open, aware, and willing to work hard.

I decided to link to this article in order to give other people who feel like "social misfits" the chance to challenge some of their preconceived ideas, and to receive some practical advice on dancing.

Sunday, August 14, 2011

Life gets in the way sometimes...




My Beautiful Suzy
I've been having some really long conversations with my girlfriend lately. These conversations inspired me to change the title of my blog. One night she and I brainstormed a bunch of possible titles. So far I'm leaning toward Distorted Zen. I think this was her idea but we don't remember really who came up with it. I really like this title! It's simple and kinda vague, but still indicative of my personality. But I'd love to hear what my readers think. If you have a suggestion or if you prefer one of the other brainstormed titles, please drop me a comment!. Below you'll find the other suggestions that we came up with.


1.     The evolution of a middle-aged man.

2.      Evolution Revolution

3.      rEVOLUTION of the Mind

4.      Revolution is my name

5.      Power of the heart

6.      Mind’s Eye

7.      Evolution of Success

8.      Evolution To Success

9.      rEVOLUTION To Success

10.   Adventures to evolution

11.   Heart slide

12.   Middle Age Life as a Punk

13.   Midlife Crisis: It’s Not So Bad

14.   The Punk Path to Middle Age

15.   Positive Mid-Life Crisis

16.   Define Your Own Success

17.   Path to Freedom

18.   The Way to Define Yourself

19.   Sleeping Awake

20.   From Punk to Mid-Life

21.   From ___ To___

22.   What To Do When You’re Clueless and Punk

23.   From Backwoods to Big City

24.   Make Your Own Path

25.   Leave Me Alone I’m Obsessing Over How to Become an Adult

26.   You’re Not Alone

27.   You’re Not Punk

28.   I’m Not A Punk

29.   Specialized Rebellion

30.   Understanding Love and Punk

31.   My Quest To Grow Up

32.   My Quest To Evolve

33.   My Path to Self-Identification

34.   Thoughts From A Wannabe Punk and Self Help Junky

35.   Notes From The Path

36.   Notes on Evolution

37.   Punks Not Dead and I Feel Like Hell

38.   From Distortion to Zen

39.   Distorted Zen

40.   Zen and Distortion

41.   Exploited Evolution

42.   The Exploitation of Evolution

43.   The Punk Perspective On Evolution

44.   The Seven Habits of Highly Demotivated People

45.   The Seven Habits of Highly Punk People

46.   Punk Habits

47.   Infinite Possibilties

48.   Positive Punk Perceptions

49.   The Punk Process of Evolution

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